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Turn Worry Into Welcome With One Simple Question - This Is Powerful

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By Paula Eder, Ph.D

Finding time to savor your life becomes so much easier as you learn the skill of introducing simple attitude shifts to your day.
Very often, when you feel yourself slipping into a rut of fear, anxiety, or negativity, something as easy as pausing and asking yourself the right question will open your mind and move it into exploring a fresh, new approach. As you practice and get comfortable with this skill, I think you will be amazed at how quickly and significantly you can shift your own perspective.

Here's a great example: How do you act when an unfamiliar challenge pops up?
Do you automatically brace yourself! That's a very familiar response for many.
But did you know that tensing your body doesn't just affect your muscles? Indeed, it constricts your problem-solving abilities and inhibits your creativity, too.
Wondering how that works?



Well, just as fear freezes your body, it also calcifies your options. Likewise, anxiety creates a simplistic either/or scarcit…

A Major Cause of Emotional Suffering

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By Margaret Paul, Ph.d.

Is it possible that there is one major cause of emotional pain and suffering?

Yes! The major cause of suffering is UNKINDNESS - to yourself and to others.
Let's take a look at why unkindness causes most of the pain in the world.
When you are unkind to yourself though your thoughts, such as judging yourself by telling yourself you are not good enough, how do you feel? Anxious, fearful, hurt, angry? Your unkind self-judgments are causing your suffering.
When you are unkind to yourself through your self-abandoning actions, such as eating badly, not exercising, or ignoring your own feelings and choosing addictions, how do you feel? In the long run you may end up feeling physically ill, scared, alone and so on. Your self-abandoning lack of self-kindness is causing your suffering.



When you are unkind to others through your words or deeds, how do you end up feeling? Angry, lonely, empty, alone? Your unloving actions are causing your suffering.
Suffering is the result o…

What Is "Prosperity" Thinking and How Do I Think That Way?

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By Christie Geiger


The Google dictionary definition of prosperity is "the state of being prosperous". Synonyms listed with the definition include profitability, affluence, wealth, opulence, luxury, the good life, milk, and honey, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, comfort, security, well-being, for example, "she deserves all the prosperity she now enjoys."


While the definitions and many in society use "prosperity" as a reference to financial riches and gains. There is a related school of thought that widens the framework of prosperity to not just be "prosperous" financially, but to include a way of being, called "prosperity thinking or mindset". This is talking about the ability to view your whole life through a lens of prosperity in your thinking. This is significant because research has shown a great majority of a humans thought is negative, which is the opposite of prosperity thinking. There is a variety of research showing negative thinki…

Successful Leadership Depends on Self-Awareness: What Does It Mean and How to Achieve It?

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By Dr Doron Gil Phd

Much has been written throughout the years about Leadership: what makes a good leader; what training is available for potentials leaders; is "leadership" a "born" characteristic or can be developed, and so on and so forth.
As part of such writings, much research had also been done about "Leadership characteristics", trying to predict what makes a leader succeed or fail.



According to a study conducted by Harvard Business School in 2017, 75 percent of those who take upon themselves a leadership role in a new venture fail. Some of the reason given are:
Lack of focus; motivation, commitment and passion; unwillingness to see or listen to others or taking advice from the wrong people; lacking general and domain-specific business knowledge, organizational and marketing skills.

On the other hand, studies which examined what contribute to leadership success mentioned, among other, the following traits:
Leaders are driven by passion and commitment; th…

Handling Limiting Beliefs

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By Jessica J Lockhart

Limiting beliefs start very small.
At their onset, they're nothing but an interpretation of a certain reality. Something happens to us or around us. We look at the event from the point of view of our previous experiences and knowledge and tentatively interpret it to fit in what we already know. It's coherent and makes sense to us. Then something else happens. It confirms our interpretation of the first event. Slowly but surely, as our original interpretation of events is more and more often confirmed, the way we see things starts crystallizing in our mind in the shape of a new belief. The more we confirm it, the stronger it becomes.

The belief becomes subconscious.
Soon, the belief is so internal and common, that we stop being aware of it. It becomes part of our subconscious belief system.
The human brain, quite similar in its operation to a regular computer, will then begin its most common task of confirming that belief, together with all other ones in our sy…

The Brain Switch

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By Jessica J Lockhart

The human brain can only focus on one thing at a time. When the brain focuses on fear, that fear grows and grows and ends up paralyzing or blocking us.
Fear comes to us through that little voice in our brain asking us... 'what if... ?' (What if I fall? What if that spider, mouse, dog... jumps on me? What if I can't do this? What if I fail? What if... ?) The little voice asks the first "what if" question. The question triggers doubt and uncertainty. A second "what if" question poses even greater insecurity. We answer our brain trying to reassure it... 'everything is going to be OK, no problem.' The brain then starts arguing back. 'It's certainly not OK, and something bad is going to happen!' The fear grows. And grows. The voice becomes more convinced and adamant. Its expression is more and more forceful.



Have you ever experienced anything like that?

The conversation in your brain is like the conversation between a mo…

No Pain, No Gain - Did You Agree to That?

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By Joan Silva

No Pain. No Gain.

Anyone else find that saying obnoxious? Or, dead wrong.
Okay, so I have to admit, I do not like to sweat. I detest a drippy, sweaty body, where your clothes stick to you and everything is damp.
One minute you're hot, the next you're damp and chilly.
I do realize this discomfort gets in the way of exercise, moving my body in a way that is healthy.
I get it. And, I have to remind myself that I live in a modern house, with two showers available to me. What's the big deal with sweat!
But, since when did we decide to apply this motto to everything? The belief that we must endure pain and stress to achieve professional excellence and a fulfilling, successful life?
No Pain, No Gain.



Did You Agree to That?

Ever ask yourself why you believe you must suffer to achieve success? Why you must work hard and endure vast amounts of stress to gain?
In past years, the concept was meant only to apply to exercise. It promised greater value and reward for the price of har…

You Are Not What Happens To You, But You Become How You Respond To It

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By Tony Fahkry

You Are Not What Happens To You

You are not what happens to you but it is how you respond to it that shapes your future. Listen, we've all had bad things happen, some more than others, yet that doesn't diminish the events of the past. Perhaps you retreated into yourself to find solace and meaning on why the events took place. Stop! Stop trying to make sense of what happened because we spend unnecessary mental and emotional energy trying to figure out life.

To rationalise life logically is a battle we seldom win. What makes me certain of this you ask? Having coached hundreds of people over the past decade and through my own ordeals, I've come to realise that making sense of what happens to us is a futile battle that only results in pain and disappointment. The mental and emotional energy is better spent trying to find solutions instead of contextualising its meaning. Life is not what happens to us, it is how we respond and grow from the experiences that shapes o…

Let's Get Honest About Identity

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By Steve Wickham


What happened when I approached 40 also happened as I approached 50. Both seasons involved tremendous introspection, with associated reflections that catapulted me along.
Approaching 40 I was thrown into a two-month bout of depression; a kind of midlife crisis. Approaching 50 was very different. I enjoyed the fact that I was entering the age of legacy. But it's not like that for everyone.


It's something that happens in all our lives at poignant times. At major birthdays, in life transitions, in situations of colossal change, we are all periodically given cause for reluctant reflection. And when it boils down to it, reflection causes us to peer intently into identity; the actual 'material' we are constructed of.
Crisis of self inevitably leads us to engage with the self within our identity.


This challenge to our identity strips away the layers of veneer that protect us from reality, and suddenly there is a core exposed, and we are critically vulnerable to th…

Expectations Gone Awry?

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By Rhonda McNett


Hope the summer finds you enjoying many things - inside and outside! We've had so much more extreme heat than normal; little wind to blow the wildfire smoke away; and no rain for over two months now - it's hard to want to be outside, right? Plans are constantly changing at the last minute due to poor air quality and the desire to do the right thing for our precious lungs! Is that frustrating to you, or are you able to just 'punt' and go to Plan B?
It's always hard to remember that most of what we encounter in Life is not 'planned' for us, and the more you try to plan (or organize!), the more frustration you may feel. This counts not only for the outdoor concert you purchased tickets for; that bike ride you were going to take yesterday with friends; as well as that organizing project you had intended not only to start, but complete!


Yes, jotting a 'to-do' on your calendar or scratch pad signifies your intention to get to something, but …

To Prepare Yourself For A Better Tomorrow, Do All You Can To Be Your Best Today

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By Tony Fahkry


The Aggregation Of Small Habits Leads To Greatness


Do you realise your best is yet to come? How do you feel when you read that statement? Do you think: "My best is behind me"? But what if you don't know what you're capable of unless you continue to move forward towards your goals and dreams? Let me give you an example. When Michael Jordan failed making his high school basketball team, do you think his career was over? Perhaps he thought so at the time because not making the team might have seemed like the end of the road for him, but it wasn't. It was the beginning of his career as one of the greatest basketballers of all time. Why? Jordan loved to play basketball and spent hours practicing and fine tuning his skills. The setbacks and defeats he experienced were part of the process to achieve greatness. They were inflection points in his career and why your best is yet to come, as long as you continue moving towards your goals. Warning: you must beli…

How to Speed Up Your Results

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By Rema Chausse

Do you ever find yourself in limbo... in that in-between place of knowing what you want, but it hasn't shown up yet? There's something you're trying to create, but the universe seems to be moving at a snail's pace. In that place between what you want, and waiting for its arrival, you often find yourself in doubt and indecision, and you sometimes end up feeling completely defeated.
Jackson Pruitt is a finance manager for a luxury auto dealership, and he was in exactly this type of situation. Not only is he naturally goal-oriented having been in sales most of his life, but financial targets are routinely encouraged for him at work. Walking the tight rope of what he wants to create and how he can speed up the process is a common theme for him (and anyone in sales or entrepreneurship).

Before talking about how we can speed things up, it helps to understand the anatomy of how things are manifested, so that we can unlock our hidden power and bring what we want t…

A Major Cause of Stress

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By Margaret Paul Phd


Discover that stress is NOT being caused primarily by people or situations, but by your own thoughts and actions.


We tend to think of stress as something that occurs because of outside events, such as having financial problems, relationship problems, health problems, or from having too much to do. Certainly events such as these are challenging, but they are not the actual cause of stressful feelings.


Stress Is An Important Message


Stress is your inner guidance's way of letting you know that you are thinking thoughts or taking actions that are out of alignment with what is in your highest good, or that you are trying to control something that you cannot control - such as how people feel about you or the outcome of things. Stress may also be letting you know that something in your body is out of whack - you are on medications or substances that are affecting your brain and causing the stress, or you have eaten foods such as sugar, processed, or pesticide-laden food …

Unleashing Faith In Business

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Dr. Shauntel Peak-Jimenez


After being an entrepreneur for almost a decade (at the writing of this article) I can guarantee you that things are not always a "bed of roses," sometimes that "bed of roses" has some thorns in it. What do I mean by that? I mean that there has been ups and downs, trying times, and times when I felt like "Is this business stuff really meant for me?" Yes, it's all good now, almost ten years later, but it sure wasn't always that way.


What kept me going? One of the biggest things that kept me motivated was faith. I prayed and asked God for divine direction and divine wisdom. I also asked Him for divine strength. And I remembered that I wasn't in the business world all alone. Entrepreneurship is fun and rewarding, but that doesn't mean that there are not struggles.




One of my biggest struggles as an entrepreneur was when my 2 week old grandson passed away. I was going through a lot, but I still had to stay focused on what…