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How You See Yourself Means Everything

By  Sergei VanBellinghen
Indeed, how you see yourself means everything since it is impossible to know how another person is going to feel, think or even look at you. When you realize it, you can then focus on the only sure thing in your life that you can control, and that is how you think, perceive and feel about yourself.

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you speak to yourself? If yes, what do you say? Are you thinking about yourself negatively or positively?

Do you take action or are you pushing things until a later time?

Whatever you do, you have to understand that you cannot control how others feel about you. It is hopeless to think that everyone would like you. There will always be people who will mistreat you, judge you, criticize you, or spread lies about you while others will support you, love you, speak kindly of you or be your greatest fan.
What is more important is how you see yourself. You have to be proud of who you are, and not be worrying about what someone else thinks of you. Why should you spend years trying to please other people, or wanting them to see the good in you? It is a waste of time. Just realize that you are good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, kind enough, or successful enough. You need to believe in yourself.

How You See Yourself Is Believing

At first, there are always people out there who will be haters. It does not matter the good that you do for yourself or this world. So do not let those individuals undermine how you see yourself because it can destroy you. Instead, use their ignorance and dislike as a drive to push forward.

On the other hand, you might not believe in yourself or your abilities. You may even feel sad or discouraged. Well, don't! Get up and look at yourself in the mirror and observe the person that is staring back at you. Realize that to believe in yourself; you have to love yourself first.

Do you know someone who is an incredible person, talented, beautiful, intelligent, but they do not see it? No matter what you tell them, they do not believe you or themselves. It may be you, right now, facing that mirror. You must know that how you see yourself is crucial, much more than how others see you. It determines the results in your life long before you even get to them.

See Yourself by Imagining

At the end of each year, people often come up with some New Year's resolutions and goals to change some things in their life. But even if they always begin with the greatest intentions, most never follow through. In my experience, anyone who ever decided to do something once a year never got very far.

You may have huge goals in mind, but what often happens is that you get the strange tendency to underestimate your capacity and you see yourself not being able to achieve what you want.
Therefore, the thoughts you have about yourself is what is stopping you from taking action and doing what is necessary. If, however, you decide to see yourself as someone who can learn new things and can imagine all of the things you can accomplish, then your conviction will directly support what your desires are.

See Yourself Letting Go

So, you have to realize that you need to let entirely go of caring or worrying about what anyone else thinks about you. Instead, start aiming solely at how you should feel about yourself. And block out other's opinions of you and focus all your attention on being the person you want you to see yourself to be.

When you forget about seeking other people's approval, you begin to live your life focused on doing the best you can each day. You no longer need to compete with anyone else but yourself.
Remember, no one is perfect. All of us make mistakes. We have to learn from them and move forward determined not to make the same mistake again. You have to make the most of your gifts, talents, and potential. And never compare yourself with other people's skills.

See Yourself Being Confident

As you start to let go and switch how you see yourself, your confidence grows. Then your talents and abilities blossom in ways you never thought possible. And your life is suddenly full of blessings beyond measure in every facet of your life. So the only opinion that you need to focus on is yours.

As a result, it makes you happier, more success comes your way, and you enjoy a better life. You have to believe and see yourself capable of what you feel is right for you and stick to it. Life is not about waiting to feel good. It is about having confidence in yourself, fully living in the present moment, and appreciating who you are.

Therefore, ignore people who drag others down into a state of misery with them. Those people are insecure and feel like they are not good enough and that it is why you have to avoid them. If you see yourself prosperous, you will be. But if you see yourself unsuccessful, that precisely is what you will be.

Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

You become what you think. So, your thoughts are things, and they continuously create your reality. Whatever you think about increases, expands and multiply in your life, so that is why it does not matter what others think about you. It is what you think about yourself that matters.

Therefore, let me encourage you to carefully consider believing in yourself and celebrate the abilities and qualities you have. Make the way in which you see yourself your main concern because it is indeed the source from which all your choices, decisions, actions and results are based. And it makes all the difference in the world.
Remember that you can be anything you want if you just focus on doing your best. How others see you is not important. But how you see yourself means everything. So stay true to yourself and never be afraid of doing what feels right to you. Decide, believe and stick to it.

Sergei VanBellinghen, Personal Growth & Success Expert, Founder of First-Class Lifestyle & I help and teach people how to get a fresh start and have a brand-new style of living after a divorce, loss or if single. I do this by using self-development techniques to help you grow, succeed and have a better life. Remember, it's not just about growing but also about ending the routine. It's about the lifestyle of working less, living more and enjoying life! Find Out How! Visit my Website and come to discover how I can afford to stay home and travel anywhere I want.
Hi! I research topics such as self-development achievement and mental health. I have a passion to use my life experiences and research to help others reach their full potential.