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Stop Living By the Rules of Other People

By Dr. Shauntel Peak-Jimenez

At one point or another many of us have either cared about what other people thought about us, have been a people pleaser, or have allowed naysayers to block the path to us moving forward. I totally get it. But what I don't get is why some people continue that way of living to the point that they are not even living the life they desire to live, because they are living the life that others desire for them to live. There is nothing wrong with taking some advice from others, especially when it is done out of love and concern, but don't allow people to put you in a box. Who has time for that? Life is so precious and so sacred, and at the same time so short that we can't afford to waste any of it living within the framework of the opinions of others. Guess what? People are always going to have something to say. So if they are going to talk you might as well be living a life that makes you happy, right?

Too many times people allow the fire for their dreams to get snuffed out because someone doubted them, or because someone told them that their dream was too difficult to achieve, or because someone didn't support them. But we can't allow what other people think or say to keep us chained to a life of settling. There has to be a mindset shift that occurs. We have to get to that point where we think and believe in a way that is in alignment with what we want to see manifest in our life. Does that mean that things will be easy when we are working toward a goal? No it doesn't. But what it does mean is that we are not going to kill our dreams before they even get birthed, and we are not going to allow anyone else to do it either.

What is the point of walking around with a dream stuck in your heart? Who is that helping? It isn't helping anyone. If some people make you feel like your dream is too big then that's okay. When God places a dream in your heart it should be big, right? He is a big God so why would He give you a small dream? And just because your dream is too big for others to conceive doesn't mean that it is too big for you to achieve.

And never ever shrink down your dream to fit the small thinking of others. That is only going to make you feel discouraged and frustrated. And it can also cause you to be stuck in neutral, instead of moving forward. It is time for you to unleash the confidence to not only follow your dreams but to achieve them. And don't let anything stop you. You are amazing, you are driven, and you are powerful. And you've got this!

Dr. Shauntel Peak-Jimenez is the founder of The Character and Self-Esteem (CASE) Institute where she provides life coach training and certification to purpose-driven individuals. She specializes in providing inspiration and education to help others transform their purpose into profit.
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Hi! I research topics such as self-development achievement and mental health. I have a passion to use my life experiences and research to help others reach their full potential.