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Feeling Defeated? How to Overcome Failure & Power Up Your Confidence

By Kelan Ern

A couple years back, a client was talking about acting. They had performed in plays most of their life.
They told me how much sweat, blood, and tears goes into one single play. The hours and HOURS of learning the material... memorizing their lines... and getting ready for the show. Despite all this preparation, something inevitably happens the day of the show... something you wouldn't expect...
They said, more often than not, someone will forget their lines or make a mistake on stage.
So NOT just a mistake but a VERY PUBLIC mistake. (In some cases in-front of hundreds of people)

What do they do about it?

When it happens, the cast members simply adjust to the mistake.
They flow with it.
They roll with it.
They play along with it.
They even make up lines if they have to.
I had no idea!
Looking back on all the plays I'd seen, I wondered how many had to be adjusted because of mistakes.
Crazy thing is, I didn't notice and neither did the people I was with...
The truth is... most people don't.

I heard something similar from a former Chicago Cubs employee. He told me how one day, they were preparing for the first pitch of the game, when the guy who was supposed to bring out the ball, waltzed out there WITHOUT it...
(Mind you, that's in-front of thousands of people and on LIVE television.)
Once he realized it, he just kept waving to the crowd, casually walks back to the dugout, grabs the ball, and goes back out there.
Besides management, hardly anyone noticed it...
Now think about both of those situations. Hundreds if not thousands of people are watching when these mistakes happen...
Yet hardly anyone notices the mistake.

If a VERY public mistake like that is hardly detected - what are the chances that the little ones in our daily lives are?
Very often though, people beat themselves up about little mistakes they make - and think that EVERYONE is going to notice what happened.
Chances are no one saw it...
And as long as you "mend the fence" or "course correct" you have nothing to worry about.
So instead of pummeling yourself (Which most people are VERY good at!)
Maybe we should take lessons from theater (and the Cubs) when mistakes happen...

Roll with it
Play along with it
Have fun with it
Because the show goes on.

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Hi! I research topics such as self-development achievement and mental health. I have a passion to use my life experiences and research to help others reach their full potential.