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The Basics of Self-Esteem

Our self esteem is something that we can control and change at any time. It is based upon our beliefs and attitudes that we have about ourselves. For example, "I AM GOOD ENOUGH despite my faults, insecurities and imperfections. Who I am is not defined by what I do, what I look like, how much I weigh, or how smart I am." It is about loving who we are and accepting ourselves unconditionally.

It is allowing ourselves to be imperfect, to accept ourselves as we are, to take risks, to try new things and to "LET GO" of negative thinking, judgments and self-criticism. It is about facing our fears and knowing that regardless of the outcome we took a risk and faced a fear.

Improving our self-worth is about making our own decisions about how we want to use our free time, setting our own goals and making choices for ourselves. It is about knowing what we like and do not like and feeling comfortable saying it out loud to others without fear of rejection, ridicule or laughter. It is about knowing our strengths and weaknesses and being willing to work on areas that need improving, such as attitudes, friendships, school, or getting along with others better. It is having the COURAGE to be honest with ourselves and being open and willing to change in a positive direction.

Being around friends and people who love and appreciate us is another way to feel good about ourselves, which will raise our self-esteem. People who know our faults and like us just the same are good friends. It is also important to not take ourselves so seriously and to be able to laugh at ourselves. Good self-esteem is from knowing that we have succeeded at things in our life that we once thought were difficult and being able to empower ourselves to try new things.

Another important factor in improving our self-esteem is taking care of our bodies. When we feel good physically, we feel energetic and full of life. It is important to eat well, exercise regularly and dress neatly. It is also essential to get enough rest/sleep. When we are tired, hungry and restless we are more than likely to make mistakes and react in ways that are counterproductive for us. Thus not feel good about ourselves. In conclusion be open, willing and honest to see ourselves in a positive and loving manner. Make today the day to say "I matter and I am worth it."